Every once in a while, I get a little down on myself and start questioning my significance, but I've come up with a few ways to combat these slumps and funks. Here are the 7 things I do when I feel like giving up:
I've gotten into the routine of working my ass off and giving up sleep in the process. Between motherhood and entreprenuership, let's face it, there's not a whole lot of time leftover for sleep! I've crashed 50-too-many times and it got to a point where my health started to show it.
My brain is a muscle and it gets tired the same way my arms and legs do after a workout. When I'm tired, I'm less likely to find creative solutions to problems and more likely to get overwhelmed.
I also find it extremely hard to focus when I haven't gotten enough sleep.I started cutting myself off. Now, I go to sleep no later than 11 regardless (I wake up at 6 so this way I know I'm always getting my 7 hours).
It sounds silly, but hugs (human touch in general) are very powerful for fighting depression, anxiety and mood swings, so they should definitely be able to help you combat your feelings of “not good enough-ness” and “maybe I should just quit.”
Check out this excerpt from the NY Times:
My dad, who’s 6’5, always gave me the best bear hugs as a kid and now my boyfriend and I make a point to hug our son as often as we can. Not just a quick hug and a “love you, have a great day,” but a real, heart-felt squeeze.
I often feel alone because I tend to isolate myself and shut down when I start to doubting things, so to have a long, meaningful, physical embrace from someone I love and trust really helps to ease my anxious mind.
It’s made a difference in my most important relationships and now that I’ve gotten used to it, I’ve noticed how much not hugging regularly makes me hypersensitive to stress. Crazy, right?! Such a small thing with such huge benefits!
3. Write my fears down on paper
My feelings and thoughts become irrational when I'm sleep deprived or overwhelmed, my two biggest causes for wanting to give up. Whenever this happens I always write my feelings (especially my fears) down on paper to make them tangible.
When I see them and make them real, I usually realize how silly and unrealistic they are. Most of the time, I'm self-sabotaging simply because I'm afraid. Silly, right?
4. Dance to loud music
Or sing super loud in the car. I either dance with my son (if you have a toddler and you don’t do this, please try it, it’s loads of fun and a great bonding experience!) or it’s also theraputic to let loose in an open space in your house with your favorite music blasting.
I have absolutely zero taste in music (I like everything from Hans Zimmer’s movie scores to pop music, meditation music and country) so whatever my current obsession is at the time, I blast it and let loose. I always feel silly when I start, but a couple minutes in I feel pretty freaking good.
5. Clean up and whip out the oil diffuser
Your space is a reflection of you, so if you have clothes everywhere (guilty) and your space is generally cluttered your mind will be too. When my space feels out of control, so do I, so when I’m stressed I clean up. Even though it’s one of my least favorite things to do, I always feel better when I’m done.
My mom has always been very into health, pampering and skincare so it was an easy jump for me to get into essential oils. I have an oil diffuser I rely on to fill my space with soothing scents. I love adding lemongrass, lavender, rose oil or sandalwood when I’m stressed.
6. Watch an inspiring movie
I remember January. I was feeling unmotivated, down on myself and super overwhelmed when a friend asked me if I wanted to go see Hidden Figures with her. She had already seen it, but knew that it was something I needed to see. And let me tell you, I walked out of that theater feeling more motivated than ever.
There’s something about civil rights movies that puts things in perspective for me, so I always recommend for my friends and family to find the type of movie or book that does the same for them. And a lot of people close to me have told me it works for them too. Try it out :)
And last, but definitely not least...
7. Let go, let God
I struggled with my faith as a teenager, I'll admit it. But times like these have brought me closer to God and I always end up being thankful for them once I've overcome them. We have to go through these periods in order to grow and realize how tough we really are.
In times like this, when I start to doubt myself, question my purpose or think "what's the point?" I try to remember that my story is unique and while some things are predestined, I also have the power to manifest what I want.
Oprah once said, "you are responsible for the energy that you bring into a room."
I try to make sure my energy is positive and that I'm in control of my thoughts, filtering out toxic or damaging falsehoods. I have the power to create the life I want, and I didn't work this hard to quit.
So, if YOU need to cry, cry. If you need to scream, scream. But when you're done, let that be the end of it and get back to work ;)
Until next time, friends...